I believe that most women have been in a situation where they are dating someone who is not ready to be in a committed relationship. Let me guess, the man who is not ready to commit is the one who has all of the qualities that you are looking for in a man. Does it sadden or disappoint you when a man is honest about the fact that he is not ready to be in a committed relationship? Do you understand that he will have the best of both worlds if you decide to ignore the fact that you would like to be in a committed relationship? Even when given an opportunity to walk away, many women decide to stick around, hoping and believing that they can eventually get the man of their dreams to commit.
I believe that trying to persuade a man to commit is a huge mistake. If he is not ready to commit, there is absolutely nothing that you can do to change his mind. If he tells you that he is not looking for anything serious right now, he just gave you a disclaimer. In other words, if you see me out with someone else, you do not have the right to ask any questions. Good looks, good sex, nice gifts, and even good cooking will not persuade a player to settle down.
If you know that you desire to be in a committed relationship, thank him for his honesty and let him walk. Save your energy and your benefits for someone who shares your desire to be in a committed relationship. The good news is that he was honest. It could have been a situation where he took the time to ask you to be his woman, knowing that he would not be faithful. I can appreciate honesty. On the contrary, I despise men who play games. Ladies, you are responsible for protecting your heart. Sometimes, following your mind and your intuition, instead of following your heart is the best option.
Dr. Jessica Houston